I was listening to the Michael Gervais podcast with Shea Serrano this week and one of the answers to the question “it all comes down to…” was answered:

“It all comes down to grit.

It got me thinking about this week when things have changed and momentum has changed from lockdown to being let out.

I’ve found myself working this week for the first time since being made redundant. I’m traditionally a desk based, intellectual, management worker traditionally, but I’ve found myself on a building site this last week.

On Friday, I found myself holding on to a wheelbarrow driving concrete back and fore from the mixer to the foundations to lay the slab.

From the first barrow my back was hurting, blisters forming on my hands and quickly exhausted concentrating on pushing the barrow over a plank of wood to get the concrete into the foundation. This is down a tiny ramp at which point the barrow is definitely driving you! Not the other way around!

This last for three hours!

I’m still feeling the affect as I write this now. Aches, pains, blisters… I’m acutely aware that my body did something brand new over the weekend.

What has this got to do with grit, and more importantly, what’s it got to do with you?

Grit isn’t just manual labour I’ve outlined above. It’s mental tenacity too.

When pushing those barrows I wanted to stop. My body hurt. And I knew I was getting sloppy and risking an injury or damage. However, my mind was sound. It was my mind that kept me going.

Those who are completing ‘Couch to 5K’ at the minute will know exactly what I’m talking about. I had one friend explain that “I knew that it would be a physical challenge but it surprised me how much of a mental exercise it is too.”

I agree with her.

I think that most of what we do is a question of mental grit. If we’re physically sound, everything else is a mental game. How often does our mind try and talk us out of things? I’ll give you a hint, it’s a lot!

Yet, even with our mind telling us we can’t do things, we’re able to carry on. I could take another wheelbarrow to the foundations, you can keep running for another 5 minutes to get your 20 minute target. I know some people who have never run before running 20 – 30 minutes achieving their goals despite how they felt and what their mind was saying. I can guarantee that at some point on their journey they didn’t want to do it but still did it, they still achieved their goal.

We can all achieve our goals. We can all keep going. Particularly with the support from others. Such as the DyeHard community on Facebook.

If we really want to achieve something, we can. We can all dig deep, keep on fighting through the pain and the mental taunting our thoughts give us, and get to the end and achieve our goals.

It all comes down to grit.


I know that talking business is always want we want to be doing and with working from home being the norm at the moment mixing business with pleasure may not be what we want to be thinking about…

However, taking some time to consider where you are and where you want to be in your personal life may actually benefit both your personal and work life.During Cuppa’ Tea with Tom & Abz today I made a throwaway comment about taking minutes and was told that that was very 90s of me as actions are king at the moment.

This was taken one step further and we were introduced to the RAID model of business meetings.Risks, Actions, Issues, Decisions.

These types of issues are highlighted often in business meetings but how often do we talk about our personal objectives and, the risks, actions, issues and decisions we make in obtaining the objective.

Knowing your outcome, your objectives is key to actually finding clarity in your life. This visualisation of what you want to achieve is the golden star that all of your decisions will be based upon, making your decisions easier to make.

Once you know your golden star you can start identifying risks, actions and issues that may arise on your journey to that start. The journey is the best bit remember so don’t get too downhearted about any issues that arise yet – you may find you enjoy them more than the outcome. Once all of this has been considered you can make a decision and take another action, even just a tiny step in the right direction toward your star.

Others may not agree with you, but if you identify this in your risks, you can already brace yourself against any naysayers and in action you can surround yourself with skilled people who are already at the star, and / or, find people who will support you on your journey. Making you more able to complete the task at hand! Have fun on that journey to the star! ⭐️🌟✨

Grow Back into Myself

Isn’t it funny how when we get older we stop wishing for change, despite being young wishing we were older so we could more things?

I had Tallulah join me for much of the show today and having listened to Jay Shetty podcast this morning with Ed Mylett who explained that each year is another year to learn and develop and be a slightly older version of yourself.

There were so many quotes to pick from in the this episode but Tallulah picked this one which semi goes against the narrative but also beautifully shows that growing up and learning new things also allows to look back and reflect on what we do like so we can grow back to certain things too.
We don’t have to hold on to versions of us we know isn’t truly us.

We are unique and fabulous each and everyday, especially when we use our awareness to really show who we are.

Keep seeking new experiences, be a full time experience seeker, but don’t feel compelled to conform with the new version of you. We can change our mind everyday.

What have you learnt about yourself that you’re happy to go back to?

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