If we’re lucky and fortunate, we’ll have a marching band, cheerleaders and fans giving us encouragement everywhere we go.
We’ll step out into the world with huge confidence that everything is alright and we can take on anything.
On a sponsored a fire-walk the main emphasis of the training is on getting your blood pumping and having people shout and scream words of encouragement to you – similar to that of sports fans at an event.
But what if we don’t have sports fans cheering us on?
This is when we become our own sports fans! We cheer the loudest for ourselves and we get our blood pumping and we do the things that make us happy anyway!
Or anything that needs to be done that we’re not quite comfortable, not necessarily as extreme as fire-walking, but you could if you wanted!
It’s putting yourself out there knowing you might fail but enjoying the process anyway. This is where we learn and grow and fundamentally learn happiness. In the pursuit of learning.
If you want to be happy – shout to yourself how great you are and learn something new, whatever that may be!
It’s something that we’re all aware of. Can often be confused with ego if we have too much of it.
It challenges us at every step we take, and gets louder the more steps away from our comfort zone we travel.
It’s a catch 22 in some regards as we need to stay humble and grounded to ensure we don’t get too big for our boots but at the same time we can’t let that humility drag us down to think, ‘what’s the point when there are others who are clearly better than I am?’
It’s a fine balance that must be struck.
The best ways to keep that balance in check is by keeping a community of people who hold you accountable while also understand and support you. They tease out your greatness.
If you’re not surrounded by these people achieving your dreams will be more difficult. Not impossible, but harder.
We echo and mimic those around us so if those around you are not building you up, your self esteem will slowly lower it’s opinion of yourself too.
You have options though:
Curate a new supporter group through shared interests
Hire someone to help you work toward your goals and keep you accountable while reminding you how awesome you are.
We need to look after ourselves when we’re working towards our dreams and goals.