Jump into Your Life

I remember setting up for the first ACTivate Your Life session within two months of getting the job.

A handful of people came through the door including one woman who was worried for her daughter who had gone through cancer and a breakup.

The lady had been so used to being a carer for her daughter during the frailty that cancer brings and although the daughter was doing well the fear of the cancer returning was too much for the lady. She wanted a guarantee that it wouldn’t and until that time came, she couldn’t rest easy as she knew that she would be needed to care again.

The reality was far different.

Her daughter was living her life, happy, and learning new skills to become her own business owner.
The fear and the worry all lived in the lady’s head.

Four weeks later we had figured out where thoughts come from, why and how they aren’t always based on fact.

We had looked at things that happen to us, and why we don’t want them to happen to us, but still need to live in line with whatever is put in front of us. We talked about talking action to mitigate about bad news that happens to us.

We discussed mindfulness and making sure that we live in the present, particularly when thoughts are becoming overwhelming, and how we can put a full stop to the anxiety and the worry the thought brings, but not necessarily the thought itself. But we can give that thought space to live and settle and to let it drift away through mindfulness techniques.

We finished with understanding her values and what kind of mother she wanted to be for her daughter and how she could best serve that function that wasn’t too demanding on her or her daughter. Through exploring values we understood that her concerns for her daughter came from wanting to be a good mother but that she hadn’t discussed with her daughter what that looked like now her daughter was no longer an active cancer patient.

Four weeks is a very short time to comprehend all of what Acceptance and Commitment Training (ACT) can do but it changed her outlook; it changed her life, and the life of the others around her.

A year later, out of the blue she emailed to say that although she still has ups and downs she stays far more balanced on the whole. She’s able to recognise when a thought is just made up and she’s far better and talking about her fears, wants and needs, particularly with her family.

What could ACT do you for you?

I want to help more people through ACT. If you think you might benefit from a 30 minute chat with me about how ACT could help you in your circumstances, drop me a message or book an appointment on Facebook and I’ll gladly spend that time with you.

Are you ready to transform the way you think and jump into your life?

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