With the lockdown lasting a little while longer than anyone expected at the moment you may be at some form cross roads. You may have seen a lot of people telling you that you should be grateful for this time and that you should be focussing on your goals and coming out of this a better person than you were before. If you don’t, you’re lazy…
What a load of rubbish.
The chances are, you were a pretty wonderful human being before all of this came about and although some people may be finding this the perfect time to revaluate their goals and desires out of life, there is nothing telling you that you have to do the same.
These demands people are putting on you can be ignored should you choose to ignore them.
But what about those people who we know from work or our families, people who appear to be thriving in this situation. You may have fallen into some form of comparison competition with yourself that you should be living your best life like those around us. It’s one thing being told to better your life by some rich bloke on Twitter, it’s another thing when those around us appear to be thriving.
If you’re not at a place where you can thrive, don’t put that kind of pressure on yourself. Getting up, working from home, doing tasks around the house, the everyday things are massive accomplishments at the moment.
Don’t fall into the comparison trap because you will always find ways that you’re failing. Remember though, this is not an exam we’re sitting – it’s just the life we’re living at the moment, and for some people this is the most traumatic thing they’ve ever experienced.
A tiny word of caution here though. Just because you might not be feeling tip top and your friends and family seem to be loving life, don’t use that as unwritten rule not to reach out to them. You still need that contact, they’re still your friends, and the bits you see that you’re comparing yourself with might be a front to stop the negative getting to them.
Our social networks are still important and if you’re feeling isolated please do reach out, at least one on one with someone if the thought of another Zoom quiz is too much for you. Or you might just like to sign in and be around others for a change.
Never add to the pain you may be feeling by not putting yourself in situations that you know will make you feel better.