Listen to Others: Open Your Life

I love learning.
I love other people’s perspective.
I love sharing.

I believe that everyone is an expert on their life and I whole-heartedly buy in to their past, present and future.

I do not proclaim to know the perfect way to live a life. No one does.

But I believe that we all live our own perfect lives, regardless of how tough or easy we may have had it from the perspective of others.

Through talking and sharing we are able to make our already perfect lives, bigger and more able to take in new experiences.

We can then talk more, listen more and love more.

If you don’t feel like you’re living a wholesome life, ask yourself what you could do to make it so.
You’ll be surprised how easy that first step is.

How Have You Felt This Week?

Have you felt flat this week?

I have, and I know a few others on social media who have been sharing similar thoughts and feelings.
Is it the change in the weather? The ongoing lockdown restrictions? The impact this is having on work and relationships? Who knows?

We may know deep down, but it’s hard to filter out the noise from the actual feelings sometimes. Particularly if there’s no one around you who you feel like you can offload onto in a safe and confidential manner.

I know that for me the last two weeks have equally gone rapidly fast while also being incredibly draining. Which surprises me as I’m usually a productive powerhouse!

Which has made the time feel that little bit tougher also.

I’m officially my own business now that my job has come to an end and that is mainly scary, but also a little daunting which has no doubt played on my mind as it will for many other people over the country who are at risk of their industries not reopening.

Yet, I remain positive. I remain in my plan to help others as this gives me strength. It gives me purpose.

I’m not being hard on myself.

I’m talking about the good and the bad feelings that I have and hearing others share their ‘heavy’ feelings, and me responding, actually pulled me out of self-lowering spiral.

Cuppa’ Tea, the show I do with my sister, and the people who watch, is the best thing I’ve done to keep me focused and engaging with others and I can’t thank everyone enough who continues to support the show and go along with ramblings and daily thoughts.

I’m proud of each and every one of us.

To maintain my morale I’ve pinpointed some things that I’ve noticed have helped me, so they may help you too.

1. Have a plan:

We don’t know when this will all be over and we can start living a life that we desire again but holding out hope for that time is what is keeping me going.

Use a vision board to visualise what you want your life to look like when it is possible and make a step by step plan of what needs to be achieved to reach it and start working toward those goals.

2. Keep talking:

Whether it is with friends or family. Whether you have a lot to say or not, keep talking with other people, regularly, even if you don’t feel like you want to. Don’t fall out of practice of listening, responding and talking to others.

We’ll need these skills even more when restrictions get lifted a little bit.

3. Find a purpose:

Or a passion project that gives you a reason to get up and go in the morning. Something to look forward to. Some people are working from home or still studying or on furlough. Regardless of which category you are in, all of these activities have been merged with home life so there is no split in your day and boundaries are being blurred.

I’ve noticed a few people talk about productivity going down and a lot of the hacks that were put in place at the beginning of restrictions are stating to waiver. Remind yourself of good working from home etiquette and find a purpose.

4. Put your phone down:

Limit intake of news. Limit interactions with social media. Enjoy the moment you’re currently in.
Sit with yourself and find out who you are.

Are you able to incorporate these into your daily routine?

Loneliness in Relationships


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So important to find yourself again and not attach yourself to something or someone that’s not right just because you’re lonely. The best relationships/friendships come from the best version of you! ❤️ Liz K 2020

Today on Cuppa’ Tea we revisited our discussion on power yesterday with Josh, talked about Greggs reopening, values and continued the conversation of Loneliness for #LonelinessAwarenessWeek.

We had some really heartfelt comments and thoughts come through from the group and people supporting each other and I think this comment really tied everything together.

Being lonely is no basis for a relationship. If you’re lonely because you don’t love yourself don’t expect others to pick up the piece because you will always find a reason not to love yourself.
This gives you power.

If you already know that you rock the world where you stand, which you do – I’m not arguing this point with you. You will maintain a power to stand out of a relationship that makes you feel lonely to be in.

What is the point of staying in a relationship where not only do you not love yourself, but the person you latched onto doesn’t love you either?

Use your power, whether you generate it or you get it from someone else like close friends and family and take action. Use your power and strength to love yourself before you get stuck in rut and don’t take any action.

Take control and do something. You won’t regret it.

If you don’t feel like you have any power ask yourself why you think this? What does it feel like? Where does this come from.

And then ask yourself ‘despite the lack of power I have now, where do I see myself 6 months from now, 12 months from now, 5 years from now?’

If you want a tried and tested way to get out of your thoughts and into your life, let me take you there.

Get in touch where we can discuss what life you want to have and let me coach you using different techniques from Acceptance and Commitment Training (ACT) and Solution Focus approach.