Christmas can be hard for many reasons. I remember seeing this list on a newsletter I was subscribed to last year and I wanted to share it with you.
- Get you right first – It is so easy to be frazzled at this time of year and if you find yourself in that state you are no use to anybody. Making sure you make some time for you will make any extra things you want to achieve so much simpler.
- Decide what is important – Tradition often dictates what happens at this time of year. Getting clear on what is important to you and your team in work, or your family at home allows you to focus on the important stuff and not worry about the rest.
- Notice what you are grateful for – It is very easy to notice all the things you haven’t done or that the team haven’t achieved. Regularly noticing the stuff that is working or is going well makes life easier for you and the people around you.
- Drop the judgement – Judging ourselves and those around us is part of the human condition, but today that is relatively unhelpful. When we see that everyone of us is simply doing the best we can with what we know and have, it opens up a space for more compassion.
- Stop trying to fix things – Very helpful people can be inclined to try and make other people and their circumstances better. Consider that no-one is broken and no-one needs fixing.
- Get great at listening – Spend way more time listening to the people around you than talking to them. They will feel much better for having been heard and you will find there is much less that is your responsibility than you thought.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff – if you are clear on what you want (# 2) the rest can be let go.
- Think win-win – Not just for work, but also for your home life. It never works when there is a loser. Be willing to talk and listen until everyone believes in the way forward.
- Appreciate the people around you – Mostly you will find that noticing and appreciating the people around you is much more significant than bonuses or gifts. This is a great time of year to go all out on acknowledgement.
- Space and Celebration – Whatever your traditions or beliefs, we hope that you create some space in the coming few weeks and you also take time to celebrate. Celebrate anything that you are pleased with or that you have achieved. Perhaps it feels as though 2019 hasn’t been the best year for you. If that’s the case, we encourage you even more to find the things you can acknowledge yourself for. Small or large makes no difference – it’s what matters to you.
10 tips is quite a lot, why not pick the three that resonate with you most and let them guide you over the next few weeks?
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